FAME comes in different shades in Nigeria. Kaffy"s fame emanated as the World Record holder of the longest dancing marathon. Dancer, Kafayat Shafau, popularly known as Kaffy, has been a celebrity in the less celebrated dance industry ever since that Guinness World Record. Today though, it is the announcement of her separation from her husband, Joseph Ameh that is making the news.
They had been married since June 2012, and had two children together, but have now called it quit on their union. The most interesting reaction to the separation comes from Kaffy herself who says that this divorce is her life's "greatest achievement". Some expected her to be heartbroken and others believe it would have been best if she had some privacy in these new days following her divorce, but Kaffy deems it fit to let us know that she is fulfilled in all this.
Kaffy has been quoted to say that her “marriage failed for so many reasons" and she is grateful she failed because "I was blind and now I see”. She was blind for 10 years. Perhaps, her ex-husband was blind as well. Whatever the case was —leading to this divorce— both parties now believe that they made a mistake 10 years ago. This could be why Kaffy believes a separation after marital failure is an achievement greater than any other in her life time (I swear, I'm not being sarcastic here).
However, this might not be a case of feeling liberated from an abusive and dysfunctional union. This could just be a what it is and nothing more —an immediately hearty reaction to the head of a crisis. Human beings tend to be emotionally reactive immediately after a relationship ceases to be, people with broken hearts can tell you all about it. Kaffy, and men or women who have recently divorced a partner, can be very expressive. The expression can be a coping mechanism, a way to respond to the situation one should be walking away from.
We understand that people learn a lot from their mistakes and failures, but we're in a bad place if anyone believes an event built on a 10-year failure is one's greatest accomplishment. Yes, one learns a great deal. It could be an achievement from a couple of perspectives, but one's life must have been quite the stagnant water if a divorce is one's "greatest achievement".
We honestly hope Kaffy (and her ex-husband) will have better futures ahead of them and use what they've learnt from their time together to contribute to achievements truly great.
